Piper and Sarah’s New Home
March 15, 2010- We had been in our apartment for six months by now. I picked up my daughters from their Sunday School class in February. The class had been told to draw a picture of their home– the place where they are happy and safe. My daughter proudly showed me her picture and it was truly adorable. She then went on to tell me that everyone drew their home but that she actually drew her NEXT house. She drew a house with a yard and flowers instead of the upstairs, tiny little place where we lived. My heart felt sad.
I went online that weekend and started looking for a place I could afford. It was discouraging. My credit was ruined from bankruptcy and it wasn’t looking good for me. A few days later, I stumbled on an ad for a two bedroom condo with a garage and a fenced in yard. I took a chance and called. The person who I spoke to explained that it was his father’s place and that his father was very insistent on good credit and references. I went to work putting together a rental resume– references galore and I took a chance meeting with him despite the previous warning about credit.
I met an angel that day: Mr. Feliciano. He was a sweet, older man whose wife was dying of cancer. He showed me the condo and I told him that I was extremely interested. He put a set of keys in my hand along with a garage door opener. He then took his hand over mine and shut my fingers. “Wait…there is a misunderstanding“, I explained to him. “I haven’t filled out paperwork or anything yet“, I said. This angel looked at me and said, “I don’t need a bunch of paperwork floating around. I know a good person when I see one“. I was in shock. I had a home. He then told me to get ahold of him in a couple of weeks to pay the rent but that I was welcome to start moving things in that day. He even offered to help me move.
I mailed him my first rent check along with a deposit of $1,200 as the ad stated. He called me and told me that he was ripping up the deposit check– “that it must be difficult to be a single mom”. My daughter got her “next house” with a yard and flowers– and I met an amazing person who I will never forget.
I can’t wait for the day that I am able to do that for someone else.
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