Divorcing a Narcissist (One Mom’s Battle)
The mission of One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting in the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children. The second portion of the OMB mission is to provide support and education for the parents who are dedicated to protecting their child(ren) from a personality disordered individual.
What is a Cluster B Personality Disorder?
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) is used by clinicians for the diagnosis of mental disorders. The Cluster B category contains four distinct personality disorders: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) however, HPD is not typically seen as part of the equation in high-conflict custody battles. When we hear of people with a high-conflict divorce or custody case, this usually involves one or more of: NPD, APD, and BPD. Borderline Personality Disorder is much more common with females than with males, Narcissistic and Antisocial Personality Disorder, is much more common in males than in females. With each of these three Cluster B disorders, there is a pronounced lack of empathy, repeated testing of laws, rules, and personal boundaries, much manipulation to meet their own needs which can fluctuate with their mood states, and sometimes fraud and other criminal activities. There is often high comorbidity with substance abuse and other forms of mental disorders.
In 2011, One Mom’s Battle (OMB) began with one mother, Tina Swithin, navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the family court system while acting as her own attorney. Tina’s personal battle began two years prior to the inception of her blog and during this time, she felt isolated and alone, never imagining that others were also experiencing the same trials and tribulations. Her blog, titled, One Mom’s Battle, was created to allow friends and family members to follow her journey. Thankfully, Tina’s battle came to an end in the fall of 2014 when her ex-husband was stripped of all visits and contact with their children based largely on emotional abuse. Tina has since dedicated her life to assisting others who are following in her footsteps.
OMB may have started with just one mom but it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth and is a primary resource for parents around the world. OMB is helping to make systematic changes in the family court system through educational outreach. The team at OMB is gender inclusive, welcoming men just as much as women in their battles with Cluster B individuals. Our focus is firmly upon protecting CHILDREN, not protecting mothers or fathers. While this began as one mother’s battle, it has turned into a village of education, love and support. We are all in this battle together. Join our Facebook community which is over 30,000 OMB’ers strong.
Seeking insight, encouragement and advice while divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin’s books, “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle” and her new book “Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield” are available on Amazon or through Barnes & Noble. Learn how to set boundaries, navigate your way through the divorce and see the narcissist for who he/she really is. You will learn to forgive yourself and you will begin to heal.