Another Ex Parte – One of Many
Some may flinch at the word, “Victory” but I am not using the word in terms of “winning”. That isn’t what this is about. I feel like I’ve had a victory in protecting my little girls. A victory in terms of the court finally understanding the severity of this situation. A victory in that the courts are doing the right thing by protecting my children.
We just left the court. It was an ex parte (emergency) hearing so we didn’t need to be in the courtroom. The judge made his decision based on the paperwork that had been submitted by the girls’ attorney and myself.
- The judge set a formal hearing for February 8, 2012 where everything will be reviewed in greater detail.
- I originally asked for supervised visitation pending the next hearing.
- The judge granted a different order: NO VISITATION until the next hearing.
I am relieved.
Finally, the courts are taking this seriously.
Finally, enough evidence has been presented that his true colors are apparent. The girls’ attorney pulled his criminal record and painted a picture for the court that I was previously unable to prove:
- October 15, 2011 – DUI
- June 4, 2010- Drunk in Public which was dismissed if he agreed to complete 15 Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. He completed classes and the case was dismissed on December 16, 2010. I had been made to believe that they threw the case out because it wasn’t valid. I had no idea that he bargained for a dismissal in lieu of AA classes.
- April 27, 2000- Drunk in Public which he was actually charged with and appears on his record.
- There was also a 1997 drunk driving which didn’t show up on his record and can’t be admitted into evidence but the attorney is aware of this fact as well.
I am hopeful about the upcoming court dates.
We are back in court Monday (January 23, 2012) for child support issues. Have a hearing to address future visitation/custody on February 8, 2012 and then a six-month review hearing in March.
I am ready for it all– bring it on.
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