Meet Tina Swithin
Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down from 2009- 2014. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. In an effort to articulate what was happening in her family court case, Tina took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.” Tina’s little village grew to include thousands of people who all shared the same story. There were different variations and nuances but the common denominator was Narcissistic Personality Disorder along with other Cluster B Personality Disorders (antisocial personality disorder and borderline personality disorder).
Tina’s battle came to an end after almost six years when she walked out of the Family Court System with the one thing that she had dedicated her life to securing: her daughters’ safety. Despite the fact that the odds were against her, Tina never gave up. She waded through the muddy waters of a courtroom that was filled with the lies, projection and manipulation. Tina prevailed when the courts revoked all visits and all contact between the children and their father based largely on emotional abuse — which is almost unheard of in family court.
An entrepreneur since the age of 14-years old, Tina has been behind the wheel of a variety of projects ranging from a nanny agency to publishing magazines. Tina has been been honored with several awards in California such as the Top 20 Under 40 (The Tribune) to the Top 40 under 40 (Pacific Coast Business Times) over the years. From 2009 through 2013, Tina worked in Public Relations and also dabbled in travel writing for outlets such as the Huffington Post.
In 2012, Tina published her first book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle,” with the goal of letting others know that they weren’t alone. In 2013, Tina went on to publish her second book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield,“ and her third book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: Rebuilding After the Storm” followed shortly after. Tina’s favorite book, “The Narc Decoder: Understanding the Language of the Narcissist,” was published in 2016. In 2018, Tina published her first children’s book titled, “Lemonade Life,” with the goal of helping children who are going through divorce (or other trying times) take life’s lemons and make lemonade.
As a result of her own custody battle, Tina has dedicated the past ten years of her life to family court advocacy and consulting with other moms (and some dads) who find themselves in the family court trenches.